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       Topics Include:

  • Anger and Abuse
  • Communication
  • Dating
  • Divorce
  • Gender Differences
  • Infidelity
  • Marriage Enrichment
  • Sexual Fulfillment
  • Society and Marriage

Anger and Abuse

68 used and new from $0.01, Hardcover, Free Press, ISBN: 0743284690
Steven Stosny
You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One"This book is revolutionary, compassionate, clear, practical and generous. Revolutionary and compassionate in that it will change forever the way we understand emotional abuse and the heart of the abuser. Clear and practical in that it gives easy-to-follow, step-by-step guidelines for recovery. Generous in that it's all there -- the whole approach. Nothing else to buy. I highly recommend it to couples and to anyone working with couples." - Diane Sollee



Communication

74 used and new from $11.18, Paperback, Jossey-Bass, ISBN: 0470485914
Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan Blumberg
Fighting for Your Marriage: A Deluxe Revised Edition of the Classic Best-seller for Enhancing Marriage and Preventing DivorceSince 1994, this best-selling classic has been the go-to reference for couples that want to enhance their marriage and prevent divorce. This thoroughly revised and updated 3rd edition (which contains a new instructional DVD for couples) is based on the widely acclaimed PREP approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples who use the strategies of this proven approach are able to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.


792 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, Northfield Publishing, ISBN: 1881273156
Gary Chapman
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your MateUnhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages. Chapman identifies five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch and explains how you can discover your spouse's - and your own - love language and use that info to create lasting love. 



70 used and new from $9.49, Hardcover, Little, Brown and Company, ISBN: 031611300X
Sue Johnson
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of LoveHeralded by the New York Times as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, has become widely popular among therapists. In HOLD ME TIGHT, Johnson translates her model for the general public –  introduces the concept of "effective dependency", key moments  - from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment, and seven healing conversations. Through case studies and practical exercises, couples learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

44 used and new from $6.96, Hardcover, Broadway, ISBN: 0767923170
Patricia Love, Steven Stosny
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It: Finding Love Beyond Words

Men are right. "Relationship talk” does not help. This book reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness: Love is not about better communication. It's about connection. Men want closer marriages just as much as women do, but not if they has to act like a woman. The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life. And so on.... tons of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages. This essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.

730 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, Holt Paperbacks, ISBN: 0805068953
Harville Hendrix
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for CouplesHendrix combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including cognitive and Gestalt therapies to help couples transform their relationship into a Conscious Marriage -- a lasting source of love and companionship. With exercises that quickly get everyone's cards on the table, he covers what it takes to get past the most common forms of relationship dysfunction and teaches the essential practice of "becoming passionate friends".



Dating

41 used and new from $4.81, Hardcover, McGraw-Hill, ISBN: 0071472657
John VanEpp
How to Avoid Marrying a JerkIt's happened to everyone: you meet someone, fall madly in love and all good judgment and perspective go out the window until slowly you realize this person isn't who you thought he/she was. Follow this proven program and 5 key areas for picking a partner and break the destructive relationship & dating patterns that lead to failure.



72 used and new from $0.01, Hardcover, Howard Books, ISBN: 1416550984
Mike & Harriett McManus
Living Together: Myths, Risks & Answers

Since the 60s, the number of couples living together before marriage has increased significantly. The theory that couples could "practice" seemed a perfect solution to an increasingly higher divorce rate. "After all," many argued, "if we live together first, we will really know if we're compatible." The sad reality is that the divorce rate is actually higher for couples who cohabit. Mike & Harriet explain that you can not practice permanence and why to be successful a marriage must be approached as permanent. Learn the many reasons why cohabitation is not the answer and the important principles that really do give couples the necessary tools for successful marriage.

79 used and new from $0.19, Paperback, Jossey-Bass, ISBN: 0787979287
Scott Stanley
The Power of Commitment: A Guide to Active, Lifelong LoveA five-step plan—based on groundbreaking research and a uniquely spiritual approach— helps couples understand commitment and includes learning to move through the pain of unfulfilled dreams and hopes, overcoming attraction to others, transforming thinking from "me versus you" to "we" and "us," and capturing the beauty of lifelong devotion, loyalty, teamwork, and building a lasting vision for the future.


Divorce




574 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, A Fireside Book, ISBN: 0671797255
Michele Weiner-Davis
Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving AgainThis best-selling book offers hope to everyone, even those teetering on the edge of divorce. Easy-to-understand, inspirational in tone, DB is the classic relationship instruction manual.




32 used and new from $1.11, Hardcover, Doubleday, ISBN: 0385500858
Linda Waite, Maggie Gallagher
The Case for Marriage: Why Married People are Happier, Healthier, and Better off FinanciallyRecipient of the 2001 Smart Marriages Impact Award - click for Case for Marriage articles and to take QUIZ
"In this cynical, high-divorce society, this important book is a MUST read." - John Gottman 
"The bible for every 'smart' marriage educator." - Diane Sollee



Gender Differences

409 used and new from $1.99, Paperback, Harper Paperbacks, ISBN: 0060574216
John Gray
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite SexThis all time best seller among relationship booksidentifies the differences between men and women – men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, after all – and offers a series of simple solutions that help couples acknowledge and accept their differences and develop happier relationships. 



311 used and new from $0.25, Hardcover, Revell, ISBN: 0800717880
Willard Harley Jr.
His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof MarriageThis classic best-seller identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses with guidance for "becoming irresistible to your spouse" and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs.




Infidelity

250 used and new from $1.62, Paperback, Harper Paperbacks, ISBN: 0060928174
Janis Abrahms Spring
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been UnfaithfulThis book offers practical, concrete strategies for strengthening your relationship before or after an affair -- strategies for building trust, kindling sexual intimacy, and considering forgiveness in ways that are human and attainable. Finalist, Best Relationship Book, Books for a Better Life Award



106 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, Moody Publishers, ISBN: 0802477488
Dave Carder, Duncan Jaenicke
Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs
This book, with individual workbooks, will help couples stabilize their marriage after infidelity. The step-by-step guide walks the couple through the betrayal, helps them process the hurt and anger, identify contributing factors, start the forgiveness process, initiate trust building exercises, and through "The Final Project" answer remaining questions in a constructive and healing 


46 used and new from $7.44, Paperback, The Guilford Press, ISBN: 157230801X
Douglas Snyder, Donald Baucom, Kristina Coop Gordon
Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart
In the aftermath of infidelity, couples struggle with turmoil and sometimes make decisions they later regret. This book helps overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, and think clearly about long term future interests before they act - taking things one step at a time, whether they stay together or part ways. This is the only program to have been empirically tested – and proven – to help partners restore trust and rebuild their marriage after an affair. Even when reconciliation is impossible, this book helps readers recover personally and avoid emotional scars so they can pursue healthier relationships in the future.

58 used and new from $6.88, Paperback, Zondervan, ISBN: 0310273943
Debra Laaser
Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed

This book proves that while the pain of sexual betrayal can break your heart, it doesn't have to break your life.Laaser offers practical and proven tools to help women struggling with sexual betrayal make wise and empowered decisions inspired by the author’s personal journey through betrayal, her work with hundreds of hurting women, and her intimate marriage two decades after the disclosure of her husband’s infidelity.



48 used and new from $16.75, Paperback, Trafford Publishing, ISBN: 1412033209
Anne Bercht
My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to MeAn emotional and triumphant journey written through the perspectives of the people involved -- the betrayed wife, the misunderstood husband, the wounded children, the "other woman" or the friends or family members who desperately want to offer comfort. There is much to be learned from someone who writes as though she is speaking to you in person and who offers all kinds of ideas for healing from infidelity - or for avoiding it in the first place.


Marriage Enrichment

182 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, Zondervan, ISBN: 0310210917
David Arp, Claudia Arp
10 Great Dates to Energize Your MarriageReclaim that old spark, connection, and creativity in your marriage through ten memory-making dates based on marriage-enriching themes. This proven approach to relationship growth is low-key, purposeful, effective, easy, and fun. 
“You will love growing together while going out together.”-John Gray



62 used and new from $3.96, Paperback, The Guilford Press, ISBN: 1572308796
William Doherty
Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us ApartIdentify & break free of attitudes and assumptions that can chip away at even the happiest marriage - treating marriage like a consumer purchase, confusing desires with needs, becoming overtime parents and part-time spouses, and giving in to unintentional sabotage from family, friends, or helping professionals. Learn how to stay alert to marital drift, create energizing marriage rituals, and how to restore a relationship worth saving, even when it seems too late.

730 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, Holt Paperbacks, ISBN: 0805068953
Harville Hendrix
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for CouplesHendrix combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including cognitive and Gestalt therapies to help couples transform their relationship into a Conscious Marriage -- a lasting source of love and companionship.With exercises that quickly get everyone's cards on the table, he covers what it takes to get past the most common forms of relationship dysfunction and teaches the essential practice of "becoming passionate friends".


574 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, A Fireside Book, ISBN: 0671797255
Michele Weiner-Davis
Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving AgainThis best-selling book offers hope to everyone, even those teetering on the edge of divorce. Easy-to-understand, inspirational in tone, DB is the classic relationship instruction manual.




311 used and new from $0.25, Hardcover, Revell, ISBN: 0800717880
Willard Harley Jr.
His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof MarriageThis classic best-seller identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses with guidance for "becoming irresistible to your spouse" and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs.



80 used and new from $0.01, Paperback, Zondervan, ISBN: 0310386616
Michael McManus
Marriage SaversHelp couples prepare for a life-long marriage, strengthen an existing one or save a troubled one with mentoring couples that have proven effective at every stage, and guidelines for how to jump-start programs in churches united in "Community Marriage Policies" that have reduced divorce rates of metro areas by as much as 35%. To order: Marriage Savers, 9311 Harrington Dr., Potomac, MD 20854.



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Sexual Fulfillment

72 used and new from $9.89, Paperback, Routledge, ISBN: 0415935512
Barry and Emily McCarthy
Rekindling Desire: A Step by Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex MarriagesGuidance couples so desperately need to revitalize low-sex and no-sex marriages in a ten-step approach that utilizes practical guidelines and clear exercises that ease couples into working together as an intimate team to confront the guilt, anger, anxiety, shame ,and inhibitions which trap them, increase intimacy, pleasuring, and eroticism and develop their own broad based, flexible couple sexual style. Includes an individualized relapse prevention program to help couplesgeneralize gains and prevent relapse.

56 used and new from $1.94, Paperback, Plume, ISBN: 0452273668
Patricia Love, Jo Robinson
Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate LovemakingBased on research from real couples, this book gives you the basic steps for creating and maintaining passion in your marriage. Easy to read, down-to- earth and full of user-friendly information that will help you understand and transform common sexual issues.Audiotape versions with workbook: 512-891-0610



45 used and new from $0.81, Hardcover, Simon & Schuster, ISBN: 0743266269
Michele Weiner Davis
The Sex-Starved Wife: What to Do When He's Lost DesireWeiner Davis explains that you are not alone, and it is not your fault: there is a whole host of reasons why your husband might be experiencing low desire. She's also convinced that understanding the cause of a problem won't make your sex life any juicier; doing something about it will. She gives you the tools you need to present the information in the book so that your husband will not become defensive. You'll learn methods for overcoming sexual dysfunctions such as performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and effective ways for dealing with pornography or infidelity. The straightforward, psychobabble-free advice in this book will help you create the intimacy and connection for which you've been longing.

65 used and new from $7.71, Paperback, Harper Paperbacks, ISBN: 0060753641
Esther Perel
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic IntelligenceThis bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex invites us to explore the 
paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes 
to bring lust home. Through case studies and lively discussion, she 
demonstrates how exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in 
long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is 
straightforward, this book will transform the way you live and love.....and what you teach couples. 

Society and Marriage

40 used and new from $0.11, Hardcover, Ivan R Dee, ISBN: 1566637090
Kay Hymowitz
Marriage and Caste in America: Separate and Unequal Families in a Post-Marital AgeRecipient of the 2007 Smart Marriages Impact Award.
"Marriage and Caste in America is the best single book on the damage being done to our nation by the explosion of divorce and nonmarital births. Beginning with the widely ignored fact that it is minorities and the poor who are disproportionately affected by family breakdown, this provocative book presents a disturbing tale of cultural meltdown. Reading it is like reading a cultural obituary." - Ron Haskins
60 used and new from $4.10, Hardcover, University of California Press, ISBN: 0520241134
Kathryn Edin, Maria Kefalas
"This book provides the most insightful and comprehensive account I have read of the reasons why many low-income women postpone marriage but don't postpone childbearing. . . excellent job of illuminating the changing meaning of marriage in America."- Andrew Cherlin